When you trust in the Lord, when you are willing to let your heart and your mind be centered in His will, when you ask to be led by the Spirit to do His will, you are assured of the greatest happiness along the way and the most fulfilling attainment from this mortal experience. If you question everything you are asked to do, or dig in your heels at every unpleasant challenge, you make it harder for the Lord to bless you. –Richard G. Scott
Monday, April 6, 2009
I need some advice
I need some advice. Recently Monkey has not been excited about going to pre-school. We get her all ready and out the door but once she is into the car she decides that she doesn't want to go. It took close to ten minutes today of her getting into the van and then getting out over and over again. Finally when I told my friend that I car pool with just to go for the third time and she was pulling away Monkey finally made the decision to get in and go. I don't know what her deal is. We've asked her why she doesn't want to go and she says that another kid hits and pushes her, but my friend talked to her teacher and that should be taken care of. She's been given the option to stay home in the past if she has a friend that she wants to stay and play with but she has never opted not to go when no one is here. So what do I do? Do I be the mean mom and make her go, even if she really doesn't want to, or do I let her stay home? You are all wiser than I am so please give me some advice on what I should do.
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Well watch how many absences she is getting too because they count it..I am not really sure the consequences and since you are not taking her there next year it probably wouldn't matter. I am pretty sure I know the boy that is hitting her. They have had a problem with 2 boys in there and Joey has come home saying this so and so person hit him. I know the school is trying to take care of it and they do punish (well according to what they can do) these 2 for their bad behaviors. I know Vanessa is really good and dealing with them. It is hard though because I don't like to take Joey to school if he is getting picked on. Emma is probably just getting tired of the whole school thing..it is almost the end of the year. In my opinion, I don't think I would take her out though because it might teach her in the future that skipping school is ok.
I would give her the choice, but encourage her to go. She has another year of preschool before school starts, so if she misses a few days now, she won't really remember it and affect her 18 months from now when she starts kindergarten. I know that both of my older kids went through the same thing at the end of the year, they were just too young and school had been going on for SO LONG that they were burned out. That might be part of the problem too, she just can't express it. Keep talking with her about all the great things she gets to do, and maybe having mom/dad come and spend the day at school w/ her would help? I would stress though, she's little and has a long time before missing school has any sort of consequence! You're doing awesome, just take a deep breathe and find something to taach her on the days she's with you! LOVE YOU!
Maybe you could talk to Stephani. She does pre-school at home and may give you some ideas of alternatives you could do at home. Maybe you have one day a week where pre-school is at home; that way, she gets a break from regular pre-school and will want to go back when the time comes. Or you could tell her that she will get hit by a truck if she does not go. I guarantee she will go for at least a couple of days after that.
You are so nice, thank you! So far Kaiden and I feel good, however, we have scratchy throats and swolen glands this morning :( And NO...the restaurant was disgusting! About preschool, here is my reasoning with stubborn kids (since I have one too sometimes!) They are only in preschool...if they want a home day once in awhile, fine. When kindergarten rolls around that's when I would be more worried and consistent with her going. But right now, I kind of like it when Kenners says she really doesn't want to go to school and then we get to hangout and play. Other days she is so excited to get to school. As long as the wanting to go days outnumber the not wanting to go ones, I think you're fine :) Good luck...maybe we can ditch sometime and go to McDonald's again! Or maybe on Friday?
This sounds exactly like Haylee. I know her teacher and love her so I was confused when she didn't want to go. As a parent I have figured out that there are times I just have to make my kids do things, but there are also times when there is a reason that my child doesn't want to do something. It has been very difficult trying to figure out what to do when those times occur. For example, Bell just started soccer. She has been whining for a month because she didn't want to do it. I just wanted her to try it. Now we are a couple practices in and she loves it. So I'm glad I made her try it. But, right before spring break Haylee whined about going to school for like 4 times. One day it was so bad that I just let her stay home. (It's only preschool right?-that's what I told myself) She just needed to stay home with me for a day. I think for her she just needed to know I cared for her and that I was still here for her. I talked to her about how important school is and why she needs to go, and then I let her stay home and we snuggled and watched a movie together. I told her the next time it was a school day that she needed to go so that she could learn. I haven't had any problems since. So, I guess just use your mothering instincts. I think a lot of times there is an underlying reason of why they don't want do do something. Good Luck. Sorry I'm not much help.
As a previous Pre-school teacher, I can say this is normal. The big warning sign is if she comes out of pre-school sad. Then you know something is really up. Jen is right, she is pretty young, there is nothing to worry about. Next year, if it happens, just make being at home not as fun as being in school. Some kids acted that way cause they knew their Moms were going to lunch, shopping or having fun with cousins. Give that sweetie a love from her Grandma!
Good Luck, I dont have much advice for you as I never put Talia in preschool and Kami loved going. Nate won't be going until next summer. Congrats on the new van! What kind is it? It is so fun to upgrade to a bigger, newer vehicle. I loved getting my van and I loved selling it after 5 years and getting an Armada. I still love my SUV after 7 months it still seems new to me. =)
Dang it He stole my thunder! Thats almost as good as what i would have said!
-Jeff
I agree with Jess ... definitely let her know that you are listening to her and understand. Giving her a choice helps her to know that you love her. Also, although it was just recent that you had a baby, it's still something that she has to get used to. She may love him and not show any other signs of jealousy, but this may be one of them. She may be thinking that you are trying to push her out of the way. I'd do what Jessica suggested ... let her have one day and see what happens, it may help her to know that you still love her and want her around.
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